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lupestripe ([personal profile] lupestripe) wrote2010-01-08 12:58 pm

The Nascence Of My Fetishes

Many psychologists believe that kinks, fetishes and other psychological deviations from "the norm" (and please don't pick apart that term, I use it merely for reference) are fostered in childhood, particularly through childhood experiences. Thinking back, I have realised that a couple of my kinks were a part of my identity from a very early age.

Furry - Age 10 - Watching The Animals Of Farthing Wood, I remember feeling empathy for and wanting to be Fox. I also remember seeing fursuiters about (on very rare occasions) and wishing that I could get a costume of my very own.
BDSM - Age 9 - The police visited our primary school to talk about crime and self-defence techniques. They got two volunteers from the audience and put them in handcuffs. I remember feeling so jealous of them and cursing my shyness for not volunteering.
Pup Play/Rubber - Age 7 - Through The Dragon's Eye was a children's TV show involving a dragon in a rubber-clad suit. Again, I was obsessed with this. The same was true of Woof! - the kid who turned into a dog for no discernable reason. I wanted to be him!!
WAM - Age 7 - I always wanted to go on Fun House with Pat Sharpe. I was never interested in the Fun House itself, or that go-karting thing, but the gunge games. This became somewhat obsessional at an early age.

There are probably other cases if I think back hard enough but these came to me recently. For me, certainly, the way I am was definitely something borne from my early childhood. So I blame my parents :P

[identity profile] lupestripe.livejournal.com 2010-01-08 02:34 pm (UTC)(link)
I didn't get the chance to indulge in mine until about the same age really. And the longer I waited, the more kinks I started to have and the more they developed into deep-seated fantasies. I think had I realised my kinks in my mid to late teens then I probably would have fewer of them now.

[identity profile] shep-shepherd.livejournal.com 2010-01-08 04:13 pm (UTC)(link)
I think that the internet has helped me a lot, as not only has it allowed me the chance to discover that there are others with the same kinks as me (and others that I didn't know I had!), I have been able to communicate with them and very often have been able to make real life friends with them *hug*
Edited 2010-01-08 16:21 (UTC)

[identity profile] lupestripe.livejournal.com 2010-01-08 05:23 pm (UTC)(link)
It sounds like a similar situation with me too. I didn't realise that the Fandom would be so full of people with kinks - I was genuinely surprised. When I found out I could exercise those kinks in the Fandom, it made it even more special for me :)

[identity profile] shep-shepherd.livejournal.com 2010-01-08 05:28 pm (UTC)(link)
I think that members of the furry fandom are generally more open-minded and adventurous than many other sections of society, which is a good thing in my book :)

[identity profile] lupestripe.livejournal.com 2010-01-08 08:19 pm (UTC)(link)
Certain members are, certainly. Some though, are amongst the most closed-minded I have met. Still, there are people with common kinks and fetishes, so I understand what you say :)