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lupestripe ([personal profile] lupestripe) wrote2008-09-29 07:57 pm

Anger Management

Over the last week or so I have had real difficulty controlling my own frustration. I get stressed too easily and this sometimes manifests itself as a boiling anger deep inside me. Over the last few days, I have probably said and done a few things that in retrospect I regret (nothing so bad as to be unresolvable though) but I am concerned that without a suitable release, these feelings are merely going to build and the situation will get worse.

I appreciate that all I am doing is lashing out against how I feel about myself but does anyone have any ways of controlling these destructive emotions? I go to the gym regularly, which does help, and I am starting to learn another language from tomorrow. I am hoping that by keeping my brain and body active, I won't have the energy to entertain these feelings. I should also meditate more but it is finding the time amidst my ridiculous (on average 55 hours a week, 6 days a week) work schedule.

I know a lot of the time I'm a warm, caring person and it distresses me that sometimes I feel so pent up that I resort to anger and bitterness. This gets me down as I pride myself as being a tolerant and decent person who tries his best to help others irrespective of how I am feeling myself. Perhaps just accepting it and not letting it get me down is a good place to start.

So how do you vent your anger and frustration and how do you stop it preying on your mind?

[identity profile] lupestripe.livejournal.com 2008-10-05 09:25 pm (UTC)(link)
That's the fear I have with distraction too - not confronting your problems sometimes is worse than dealing with them in a negative way - and something I have been prone too in the past. And then it comes and bites you in the ass in a big way - not good.

Regarding talking - it's a good idea and one I often employ but you can only really do it so much. I sometimes fear that I am burdening people and that makes me feel worse in the long term.

[identity profile] washu-chan-uk.livejournal.com 2008-10-05 10:25 pm (UTC)(link)
Regarding talking - it's a good idea and one I often employ but you can only really do it so much. I sometimes fear that I am burdening people and that makes me feel worse in the long term.

I believe any true friend would tell you if they could not help you at the time you talk to them, so try not to worry so much about that wuff.

[identity profile] lupestripe.livejournal.com 2008-10-06 06:43 pm (UTC)(link)
I guess you're right - I've just done it a hell of a lot in my life. I suppose, conversely, I have always been there for my friends too so perhaps I shouldn't worry about things. After all, one of the major things about friendship is being there to help people through the shit that life can sometimes throw at you.