The Nature Of Submissives

[lupestripe]

Are submissives generally selfless creatures who wish to make others happy, or do they have self-esteem issues that are only alleviated by the opportunity to serve and make their masters happy? I really don't know my own take on it.

(And yep I am being way to psychoanalytical and I know you can't generalise completely - just interested in the psychological mechanisms)

Comments

[lazyhowl.livejournal.com]

Thought over this one with my mind a long time, been dom in mindset but with submissive fantasys. Everyone's unique, I think self esteem only comes into it if you use fantasys to make your self feel better rather than just for fun. I've known selfish subs and dom in years online ie (one's who only talk to get you to rp and then not speak after. It's just a matter of the inderviguial more that what kind of person they are.

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Completely agree - there is a difference between submissiveness for fun and being a lifestyle sub. I am the latter, I wonder if that makes a difference in terms of self-esteem?