The Nature Of Submissives

[lupestripe]

Are submissives generally selfless creatures who wish to make others happy, or do they have self-esteem issues that are only alleviated by the opportunity to serve and make their masters happy? I really don't know my own take on it.

(And yep I am being way to psychoanalytical and I know you can't generalise completely - just interested in the psychological mechanisms)

Comments

[yingguoren.livejournal.com]

It depends on what sphere of behavior you're talking about. For example, being submissive in the bedroom is not necessarily always linked to being a pushover at work or in social groups.

Being a submissive person socially I would guess *can* be linked to a cycle of low self-esteem and indecision, although as with these things there're always going to be people who go with the flow because they think it'll make other people happy, and can do so with no damage to their own self worth.

As for how much of the time social subs are bedroom subs, I don't know. Would be interesting to do a literature search of PsycInfo and find out if anyone's studied it :)

Hi, btw. Thought I'd post because it was an interesting questions :p

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Heya, thanks for posting :)

I think a lot of subs have dominant positions in work. I am a manager for my own company, for example, but I am a sub. I think relinquishing control and being able to relax are two major reasons why people are submissive. However, I also think that what I highlighted above is also relevant. It's a very complex issue though, of course.