The Nature Of Submissives

[lupestripe]

Are submissives generally selfless creatures who wish to make others happy, or do they have self-esteem issues that are only alleviated by the opportunity to serve and make their masters happy? I really don't know my own take on it.

(And yep I am being way to psychoanalytical and I know you can't generalise completely - just interested in the psychological mechanisms)

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[kiwihunter8.livejournal.com]

Oops, I realise in my comment I just said what you already said - you can't generalise!

IN which case, I say: from the submissives I've talked to (and in my own experiences with those feelings) I'd say it's about happiness gained from pleasing someone else.

They may or not may not have self esteem issues. But I think sometimes it's a control issue. When oftentimes we don't have the opportunity to do something simple to make someone happy it's fun to 'do a good job' on whatever it is the dominant wants.

It's a lot more satisfying than going to work and being just a cog in a machine where you don't get to oftentimes see the immediate results of what you've worked for.

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

To be honest, I wrote it in response to your post so it's not your fault for missing it lols.

I completely agree with everything you say - I certainly think that's an element. I enjoy making Master happy and that is what I live to do - making him happy, makes me happy. In some respects, it's a more transparent form of how a relationship should be anyway.