The Nature Of Submissives

[lupestripe]

Are submissives generally selfless creatures who wish to make others happy, or do they have self-esteem issues that are only alleviated by the opportunity to serve and make their masters happy? I really don't know my own take on it.

(And yep I am being way to psychoanalytical and I know you can't generalise completely - just interested in the psychological mechanisms)

Comments

[balto-mike.livejournal.com]

I'd say its pretty selfless for me, as that is a major aspect of my personality. However I feel I just don't have the mindset to dominate too.

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

I have tried domination but I can't do it - can't get into the mindset. Part of it is because I am in control in my professional life and don't want to extend that into my personal life. However, another part of it is a desire to please and get the instant reward of being told I am doing a good job. Having cripplingly low confidence catalyses that, which is one of the reasons why I live to please.