Anger Management

[lupestripe]

Over the last week or so I have had real difficulty controlling my own frustration. I get stressed too easily and this sometimes manifests itself as a boiling anger deep inside me. Over the last few days, I have probably said and done a few things that in retrospect I regret (nothing so bad as to be unresolvable though) but I am concerned that without a suitable release, these feelings are merely going to build and the situation will get worse.

I appreciate that all I am doing is lashing out against how I feel about myself but does anyone have any ways of controlling these destructive emotions? I go to the gym regularly, which does help, and I am starting to learn another language from tomorrow. I am hoping that by keeping my brain and body active, I won't have the energy to entertain these feelings. I should also meditate more but it is finding the time amidst my ridiculous (on average 55 hours a week, 6 days a week) work schedule.

I know a lot of the time I'm a warm, caring person and it distresses me that sometimes I feel so pent up that I resort to anger and bitterness. This gets me down as I pride myself as being a tolerant and decent person who tries his best to help others irrespective of how I am feeling myself. Perhaps just accepting it and not letting it get me down is a good place to start.

So how do you vent your anger and frustration and how do you stop it preying on your mind?

Comments

[schnee.livejournal.com]

Physical activity really helps. If you've got a bike, for instance, just try to jump on that and ride for a while, exhausting yourself and letting it out - it'll really make you feel better. Going to the gym is good, too, of course.

That's really the only thing I know that'll make a real difference.

[rustyfox.livejournal.com]

I shout. Lots. Ask Avon.

(Ok, you didn't ask for any good anger management techniques!)

[volf-mech.livejournal.com]

The last time I vented, I was at work. I then ended up with a £170 pound repair bill, my final warning and very sore nuckles. Whilst the shouting helped, the kicking the snack machine and punching the walls... wasnt the best way.

Thats pretty much how I tend to vent (But now its just shouting awhole lot followed with 2 cups of strong coffee) As for how I stop it, I dont. Well, I cant to be frank.

[balto-mike.livejournal.com]

My lifesavers are a good piece of music, good film/documentary to watch or a get into a book from time to time.

[washu-chan-uk.livejournal.com]

I find that sometimes talking to someone about what has me stressed out/angered/frothing at the maw does help, this does of course require that the persons around you *aren't* the ones your trying to feed their words in raw printer-paper format.

The other ways I deal with it are to distract myself, but I find that they don't actually *solve* the problem and thus cause them to come back with vengeance at a later time.

So my advice is simple, if you can deal with the issue do so after thinking about it for a while, if not hold back and deal with it slowly.

[kajidog.livejournal.com]

Two hours of exercise a day, and meditation. Sorry if you were expecting a more complicated answer, but there's not much to it really.

[silent-o.livejournal.com]

A nice, violent, gory video game does wonders for working out frustration.

I recommend Assassin's Creed.


Apart from gaming, I tend to channel my rage into extensive rants.


Also, have you tried using a mantra? Just repeat something pleasant over and over again in your head.

[symphonic-rp.livejournal.com]

How do I vent? Well, I usually write and angry rant about whatever's bugging me. This is kind of like yelling and screaming without actually doing so.

Sometimes I publish these in my journal if I feel there is anything to benefit anyone else in them, or if I feel a need for others to know what state of mind I'm in. But most often I don't publish them. Usually just hashing it out in text is enough of a release.

How do I keep things from preying on my mind? Only one thing helps here. Distraction. I must force my mind to give constant attention to other things. Creative projects, reading, watching movies, listening to engrossing music, whatever you've got to keep your mind from being idol until the obsession passes.

No matter what your mind is obsessing over, there is always something more important to you, something more attractive and emotionally settling you can apply your mind to. And every moment you keep yourself from thinking about what's making you angry, your mind is healing.

[fen-ra.livejournal.com]

If it's a person who'se causing it I dismiss them as an A-hole and the sense of superiority cures the anger. If that fails I imagine bad things happening to them. Otherwise, I boot up Command And Conquer and blow stuff up.

Chill-out music also helps.

[avon-deer.livejournal.com]

When I was going through an unemployment related crisis: I used to headbutt walls...that was until my mum threatened to section me.

Now I grind chinese worry balls.

[ruffleswolf.livejournal.com]

fuckin' shoot people over the internet, s'what I do to calm down



you wanna just dump an extra day's load of casework on me oh cool BLAAAOH BLAAOHH BLAAAOOOOH TRICK

[enteirah]

I just bottle it all up and never let it bother anyone, as I was taught to do by furries because furries prefer it that way (oh noes, anyone who says anything is being no fun and emoz how darez they lulzwtfbbq). Yes, this is probably why I sometimes seem quite bitter. =;)

[wavefox.livejournal.com]

As we can see from above, everyone tends to have a different way of dealing with stuff. What I'd do is give some of these things a try, and if they don't help after a few times, then try something else, and keep doing that until you've worked out a combination that works for you.

I find curling up in someone's lap and taking some time out works for me, gives me time to work things out clearly in my mind and work out why I'm annoyed, and there's someone right there to talk to when ever I need to. :)

[crosseyeddragon.livejournal.com]

I tend to keep old broken appliances in my shed, like old microwaves or an old tv from work. I'm terrible with anger management and when I see red I need to bray the fuck out of something with a sledge hammer till I feel better. Admittedly it does get worried curtain twitching from the neighbours, but it does work.