Oops, I realise in my comment I just said what you already said - you can't generalise!
IN which case, I say: from the submissives I've talked to (and in my own experiences with those feelings) I'd say it's about happiness gained from pleasing someone else.
They may or not may not have self esteem issues. But I think sometimes it's a control issue. When oftentimes we don't have the opportunity to do something simple to make someone happy it's fun to 'do a good job' on whatever it is the dominant wants.
It's a lot more satisfying than going to work and being just a cog in a machine where you don't get to oftentimes see the immediate results of what you've worked for.
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Date: 2009-06-03 02:12 pm (UTC)IN which case, I say: from the submissives I've talked to (and in my own experiences with those feelings) I'd say it's about happiness gained from pleasing someone else.
They may or not may not have self esteem issues. But I think sometimes it's a control issue. When oftentimes we don't have the opportunity to do something simple to make someone happy it's fun to 'do a good job' on whatever it is the dominant wants.
It's a lot more satisfying than going to work and being just a cog in a machine where you don't get to oftentimes see the immediate results of what you've worked for.