I couldn't really answer her question really - I can't go into the whole ownership D/s thing and I can't really extol being a furry to people who probably wouldn't understand.
Why not?
Put another way, can't you, or don't you want to? It's OK to not want to, of course, but I think doing it would actually be relatively easy — if you said "it's an SM thing"[1], chances are that even though she'd not really understand the specifics of your relationship power dynamics etc., she'd have a general idea, at least: the question "why are you wearing a collar" would've been answered.
Of course, it's hard to predict how she would react. It's quite possible she wouldn't accept it, but then, you don't know her, and as long as YOU accept it, the opinion of a random stranger needn't concern you, right? :)
Put another way — it's part of you, and it's a part that's good and fine and that you can be proud of. There's nothing shameful about it, nothing that would need to be hidden or lied about; you can hold your head high and say "this is who and what I am", and if anybody doesn't accept that... well, then that's their problem, not yours.
Yes, you and I both know that "BDSM" is really the correct term, but random people on the street won't, and you gotta speak their language. :)
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Date: 2009-11-30 01:45 pm (UTC)Why not?
Put another way, can't you, or don't you want to? It's OK to not want to, of course, but I think doing it would actually be relatively easy — if you said "it's an SM thing"[1], chances are that even though she'd not really understand the specifics of your relationship power dynamics etc., she'd have a general idea, at least: the question "why are you wearing a collar" would've been answered.
Of course, it's hard to predict how she would react. It's quite possible she wouldn't accept it, but then, you don't know her, and as long as YOU accept it, the opinion of a random stranger needn't concern you, right? :)
Put another way — it's part of you, and it's a part that's good and fine and that you can be proud of. There's nothing shameful about it, nothing that would need to be hidden or lied about; you can hold your head high and say "this is who and what I am", and if anybody doesn't accept that... well, then that's their problem, not yours.