I have always thought that empathy is the most important characteristic to share. If you don't have that then it's hard to know what makes you human as this is such a fundamental trait when it comes to friendship. To this end, to be kind, caring and open-minded is the only way that one should be and it is something I strive towards every single day.
When it comes to me fitting into the fandom, part of my problem is that I have been focusing on what's wrong with it rather than what's right. There are a myriad of different personalities out there and I have some very good friends here. My brain so often deceives me so when I hear talk of things I know little about (e.g. gaming, computers etc) I feel I don't belong because I don't have that empathy for those things. Yet I have empathy with others on other often deeper things but sometimes my mind clouds this. As you say, some of it is starting to accept who I am. Things are moving in the right direction but in some psychological senses I am casting off the chattels of twenty-five years of feeling inferior, and that is tough.
Life is a mixture of the good times and the bad and I am sure that you will come through your current situation. I will be there to help you all that I can hun, even if it is someone to vent your frustrations at. I hope things are getting better hun *hugs*
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Re: "We can be our worst enemy" most of the time....
Date: 2008-03-24 11:09 pm (UTC)When it comes to me fitting into the fandom, part of my problem is that I have been focusing on what's wrong with it rather than what's right. There are a myriad of different personalities out there and I have some very good friends here. My brain so often deceives me so when I hear talk of things I know little about (e.g. gaming, computers etc) I feel I don't belong because I don't have that empathy for those things. Yet I have empathy with others on other often deeper things but sometimes my mind clouds this. As you say, some of it is starting to accept who I am. Things are moving in the right direction but in some psychological senses I am casting off the chattels of twenty-five years of feeling inferior, and that is tough.
Life is a mixture of the good times and the bad and I am sure that you will come through your current situation. I will be there to help you all that I can hun, even if it is someone to vent your frustrations at. I hope things are getting better hun *hugs*