Maybe The Dynamic Changed?
Dec. 3rd, 2010 11:45 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lupestripeI feel a lot of friendships have been lost over the passage of time. I guess we just drifted apart. I don't really have a lot of time for social situations these days but I still go to the same number of Northern Meets that I always did and if you add the Leeds pubbages, I probably go to more meets now than ever. It never seems to be enough though. There are loads of people who were good friends with whom I have completely lost touch whilst others I see fleetingly, maybe once or twice a year. This saddens me.
I think my lack of presence on IMs this year hasn't helped but I am so busy these days I can rarely find time. Meanwhile, I have always treated IMs as the facilitator to a social life rather than the social life itself. In Middlesbrough, where I had no one to socialise with, IMs became my lifeline. Today in Leeds, I have good friends with whom I can meet up on a whim. I guess this is an important difference.
Furthermore, perhaps the dynamics have changed? The recession and rise in the number of furries seems to be keeping people more local these days as smaller communities are developing in most major cities. To that end, I have more closer friends in the fandom now than I have ever had, largely due to local proximity. Perhaps this is all that's happening - a greater local focus and the fact I am fortunate to live close to some fantastic people with whom I share common interests.
Perhaps I muse too much.
I think my lack of presence on IMs this year hasn't helped but I am so busy these days I can rarely find time. Meanwhile, I have always treated IMs as the facilitator to a social life rather than the social life itself. In Middlesbrough, where I had no one to socialise with, IMs became my lifeline. Today in Leeds, I have good friends with whom I can meet up on a whim. I guess this is an important difference.
Furthermore, perhaps the dynamics have changed? The recession and rise in the number of furries seems to be keeping people more local these days as smaller communities are developing in most major cities. To that end, I have more closer friends in the fandom now than I have ever had, largely due to local proximity. Perhaps this is all that's happening - a greater local focus and the fact I am fortunate to live close to some fantastic people with whom I share common interests.
Perhaps I muse too much.
