The Only Japanese I Hear Is In Porn Movies

[lupestripe]

I caught the tail end of the Leeds Meet yesterday after work as a few stragglers were still in the pub. I arrived about 8pm and things were going great until Baloki left, after which the conversation descended into computer geek speak.

This is a common problem I face as my depth of care concerning computers and technology is whether it works or not. Beyond that I cannot converse about it because I have no knowledge about it, nor does it interest me either. And don't get me started on the prevalent use of acronyms too.

Social situations should be about spending time with people who share common interests. Last night was far from that. While I don't mind people discussing stuff I am clueless about, to do this for hours does leave me feeling somewhat left out and wondering whether I would be better served finding friends with some sort of empathy.

It is hardly surprising that my closest friends in the fandom are the less geeky ones, or those who talk about far more than this topic alone. Again it's a case of picking and choosing friends and another reason why I am less enthusiastic about meets and more keen on smaller gatherings these days.

After all, incidents like last night happen far too often. Perhaps I should start talking about sport more often...

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Comments

[moth-wingthane.livejournal.com]

That was always the one thing I hated about office social events - everyone just sat around talking shop about their jobs. So boring. I'm sure there is more to people than that. Same for tech stuff.

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

It seems to be the case with many furs too - sit around and talk about their jobs, or their love of something technological. I don't particularly mind that but it highlights that these people are simply on a different wavelength to me.

[bloodbeauty.livejournal.com]

you should come to preston at some point! would be good to see you again. and i promise not to talk geeky stuff. i might try and make you play board games though

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Which board games? :P

Will try to make it over to Preston at some point - won't be November unfortunately,

[bloodbeauty.livejournal.com]

i have anti-monopoly, wealth of nations, scrabble, and a compendium of lots of classic stuff....and munchkin and...well...lots of games. i like games

[skawinski.livejournal.com]

If you're ever seeking for a sports conversation then I'm right here :D

A great part of the furry fandom happens to be techie geeks - no wonder why most of the topics revolve around computers etc. I don't understand a word of it either and have no interest in the field as well - as long as it works, I am content. That's why sometimes I force a change of subject if people that I'm with get too carried away :p

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

I was quite surprised to discover you liked sport - we should chat more about sport sometime.

I understand a lot of furs are techie geeks and I don't particularly have an issue with that. It's just it makes me feel I have joined the wrong group.

[redmoor.livejournal.com]

Og god the worst thing about fur meets is that bull shit computer geeky talk. Many times i have been left out because of this and the worst thing is no one realises how rude it is.
Best thing is its an excuse to get another drink, cheese or bugger off home :)

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Yep I think that's why I feel the way I do about it - it's just astonishingly rude. I don't mind for quarter of an hour but whole evenings dedicated to it? I do feel more relaxed amongst my non-fur friends and perhaps I need to focus on making more contacts outside the fandom. This sort of thing is a common occurrence sadly.

[vulpixnine.livejournal.com]

Oh boy do I know how you feel.

Every furry convention I go to I am either left alone or my boyfriend and I go together and he has to talk about art with his friends.

Now, that wouldn't' be so bad expect that... I know very little about art. Or they talk about apparently really well known artists that I don't know. So then I am left being quite in the corner and my boyfriend tries to change the subject but then I can't get a word in before the conversation goes back to art or famous furries again. So basically... I feel very alone and left out when I hang out with my boyfriend at conventions.

I thought about not going anymore, but my boyfriend always wants me there for support. He doesn't want to feel like he is alone. I sometimes don't know what to do anymore.