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[lupestripe]

God, I really don't fit in, do I?

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[rustyfox.livejournal.com]

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Where don't you fit in?

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Empathy is hard to find. Perhaps I am being to harsh on myself. I dunno, I just don't feel particularly comfortable. Perhaps I am looking into things too deeply.

[bloodwolves.livejournal.com]

Hon,I'm a misfit toy.

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

It's isolating. It's horrible.

[puddy-tat-uk.livejournal.com]

fit into what, or whom?

if 'fitting in' always that great?

"I wouldn't want to belong to any club that would have me as a member"

- Groucho Marx

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

True, I just want to feel like I belong somewhere. Alas, I don't feel that.

[doco.livejournal.com]

What? Huh?

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Just how I feel at the moment. It's particularly strong.

[silent-o.livejournal.com]

You fit in fine with the rest of us irredeemable furfags. :P

*huggles*

[puddy-tat-uk.livejournal.com]

OMG - you're a furfag??

Eek!

=( - . ' )=

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Thanks hun - you're a mentally fantastic possum *hugs*

[dark-raven-wolf.livejournal.com]

*holds out his secret furfag badge*

[snowfields.livejournal.com]

Yeah, you do. You just don't feel like you do. Rusty raises a valid point, look at the people that at least call you an acquaintance; there must be some commonality between you or they'd not bother, you therefore fit in with your peer group.

With that said...

It's easy to feel unhappy with your lot. You've had some setbacks recently and are feeling like you're trapped in a rut. I'd put it to you that you don't belong there. It's the dissatisfaction with the down side that is colouring your outlook generally.

But hey, what do I know? I'm just a fox :)

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Lols thanks hun. I know my current circumstances are magnifying this but I have been here before and the next stage is the scary one. I am still trying to social things so as to have something to look forward to.

[jonnywoof.livejournal.com]

Maybe you're trying too hard to fit in? Or thinking about it too much?

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

It's probably the latter - I hate being so analytical - I can find fault in anything. It's probably why I find happiness quite hard to find.

[bloodwolves.livejournal.com]

yes you do fit in you're one of us silly critters,hun.

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

I hope so, it's just I rarely have anything to say to people. We spend most of our time talking about things I know nothing about in the Fandom - I don't think I've ever had an actual conversation about animals for example.

[hukkax.livejournal.com]

If this is about the lack of visible empathy, I'd wager a guess it might be because most of the empathetic people are also shy. I can only speak for myself, but I'm often too shy to post, especially if the message is only something to the tune of "I empathize".

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

I am sure that's a part of it - empathy is so important to me. But, even on a superficial level, I don't really share the same interests as most furries and a lot of them are now 10 years younger than I am. This makes me feel somewhat isolated.

[godzuki.livejournal.com]

I think its more you feeling you dont fit in than not actually fitting in...you need to learn to fight your own demons.

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Yep, story of my life. No idea how to slay them though, only how to alleviate them.

[snowtiger-uk.livejournal.com]

You wont fit it with the normal folk as perhaps you and most of us furries arent normal, but be happy to be wierd,screwball,furry, whatever you like. Most of all, be happy with who/what you are, this is the most important part. I am happy and I fully accept who/what I am, if the rest of the world thinks that I am odd, well screw them I dont care.

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

That's the thing, I can fit in with normal folk too. I can speak to most people really, I don't find it that difficult. Problem is empathy. I need to empathise with people for some reason. I don't mind who I am particularly, I am far better than I was regarding that, I just feel that I don't share that many common interests with most furs and thus find it difficult to talk to them and empathise with them.

[snowtiger-uk.livejournal.com]

In fact you do fit in, you will have good furiends that accept you for who/what you are.

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

I hope so hun, I'd like to think so anyway. I feel I let myself down a lot though by being who I am.

[snowtiger-uk.livejournal.com]

"I feel I let myself down a lot though by being who I am."
I understand how that feels in a way, just being a furfag kinda screws things up for me, I doubt if I will ever make a male pregnant no matter how hard I try, So I will never have kidz. Never mind though there are benefits to a male on male relationship.

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

As you say, there are pros and cons in every relationship. I have never really wanted kids myself but things can change. I guess it's just about making the best of the situation.