The Nature Of Submissives

[lupestripe]

Are submissives generally selfless creatures who wish to make others happy, or do they have self-esteem issues that are only alleviated by the opportunity to serve and make their masters happy? I really don't know my own take on it.

(And yep I am being way to psychoanalytical and I know you can't generalise completely - just interested in the psychological mechanisms)

Comments

[little-wolf1985.livejournal.com]

Personally, I enjoy pleasing my partner and making them happy. That is where I get my enjoyment, from knowing that they are happy and that I am the cause of that happiness.

[darkone238.livejournal.com]

this

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Agreed :)

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

I think it's a more transparent and direct form of making people happy, which is one of the reasons why it appeals to me. I have low confidence so to be told I am doing something correctly is obviously a huge boost. Knowing that you are making someone happy and they express it regularly circumvents some of the fears you get in relationships, particularly when there is a lack of communication.