Intimidation

[lupestripe]

My German tutor made a very interesting point about me today - she said that the first time I met her, I was "intimidating" but she soon got used to me. She said I hadn't deliberately been intimidating, it was just the way I am. I wonder how many other people find me intimidating and whether this is the reason why I feel I don't fit in anywhere.

Comments

[shep-shepherd.livejournal.com]

When I first met you, you had pink hair, which wasn't intimidating in the slightest :)

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

I think the key may be to have pink hair more often ^^

[stuart-otterson.livejournal.com]

But then you might look like an intimidating pink hair punk with a collar! :O

[slinkat.livejournal.com]

Difficult to say without qualifying why she finds you intimidating? Physically, mentally, personality wise? I'd say you're one of those people who are quite guarded about letting people get to know you, which some people can view as intimidating if they think it's deliberate. I'd suggest you're quite like me, in that you're the sort of person who maybe finds it hard to engage in the usual vacuous smalltalk that a lot of social settings seem to dictate, as you don't have any interest in banal day to day nonsense.

Sample conversation :-

"Did you watch X Factor last night?"
"No"
"What do you make of [insert celebrity gossip]?"
"Who?"
"Who do you think killed [character X] in [soap Y]?"
"Don't care"

That sort of thing. Musical taste is a decent indicator. Not in a purely metal sense, more just that it sits outside mainstream culture to a degree, so anyone trying to get to know you (or indeed me, or Shep) has no easy jumping on point. Dare I say we're very distinctive, hehe.

You can do fluffy and silly and carefree, but it has to be in a context you care about, not just for the sake of it, as pre-ordained fun probably troubles you.

My thoughts, having got to know you :-)

To quote Vincent Vega - "To be continued".

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

All that's pretty accurate - I am sure it was partly dependent on whatever mood I was in when we first met, although from memory I think I was alright. It was after a hard day at work though so that may have been a factor.

[skawinski.livejournal.com]

I haven't noticed anything intimidating in you. You made a really good impression on me :)

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Yeys! *waghugs*

[fen-ra.livejournal.com]

I have never found you intimidating, you're far too friendly for me to get that kind of impression.

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

I can be moody at times but I have never considered myself intimidating. It was just a weird adjective which took me aback.

[jenna-vixen.livejournal.com]

I always thought you were a really friendly guy. :)

And you like pink, that's bonus points right there. ;)

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

Yey for pinkness! I'd like to think I was friendly - sometimes I can be a little scary but I don't think I was in this case.

[enteirah]

It might just be a bad choice of words there; its hard to read from this how she meant it. I'd never have said you were intimidating, as I'd read that to be someone to be scared of. However if people catch you the first time when you've been drinking a lot or are lacking in sleep, then your mad excitability can possibly surprise people. I think though once anyone has gotten used to your humour and bounciness first they realise its harmless. =:P

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

I may have had a lack of sleep, the first time we met, I can't remember. It certainly wasn't alcohol related as I met her straight after work. I do get the impression a lot of people don't understand my humour - I am getting this sense at work particularly right now.

[blueberrybadger.livejournal.com]

Sounds like she is moronic rather than you intimidating. I mean who tells someone that, especially their client?

[lupestripe.livejournal.com]

I have a habit of befriending people and then they tend to be more honest with me. I don't think she meant it to offend - in fact I know she didn't - it was just an observation.

[stuart-otterson.livejournal.com]

I'd be nice if somebody could describe me as intimidating. :<

*rabbit does his best intimidating impression*

Rawr! :3